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So, this blog came about after a nasty day at school. Not only for me, but for
many people. It's not just today, but every day. It's a long process, and
it often feels you leaving full of self loathing. Their isn't a day that goes by
that I myself am called: Ugly, Shrimp, Stupid, Loser, Hideous, Gay, Freak,
Fake, Emo, Nerd, Fat, Poser, Fake, Over-Emotional, and my favorite
PSYCHOPATH!
This is a daily thing, and it makes school hard, it makes life difficult.
And it's a shame really. I'm in the 8th grade, and is this really something
that you want to spread to today's youth? Do you really want today's
youth to go through life believing these things?
I didn't believe these things for a minute, but eventually,
after hearing it for so long, you do believe it. Now I do believe these
things. It makes my life more difficult on top of the already
tedious, demanding, and grueling long school hours. It makes
things difficult. I don't want to go, and I'm sure I'm not the only
one who feels these ways.
Today, I recently told a teacher about these issues, and their motto?
I DID NOT HEAR;
THEREFORE I CANNOT HELP!
And my favorite line from my other teacher,
THIS IS A NO TOLERANCE SCHOOL ZONE;
I AM NOT QUALIFIED TO HELP YOU IN THIS MATTER.
What?
Come again.
You didn't hear?
This is no tolerance?
You cannot help?
Now, is this seriously the message you want to give? I get it, you
can't do certain things but if someone is getting bullied
day in and day out, not necessarily in my situation, but like
my friend Gracie. She is told people would supply a gun, if she
did the honors of leaving.
Do you have any idea how this effects a child's life?
We have it hard enough outside of school, and then you
come to school, which is supposed to be a safe place but you
only get the same thing day in and day out. It makes me sick, it makes
me scared, it makes me not want to show up to school for the same ridicule I'd
face in every moment of school.
It's bad, this has to end. We are kids, can't you go a day without
bullying someone for something so petty as the way their hair falls, or
the way their shirt looks. Or even something like a blemish on their face,
when everyone gets blemishes. Heck, my nonna still gets blemishes.
She still gets imperfections.
Today's youth cannot go a day without hearing the words of peers,
or media. This stigma on things has to change. People
need a break. Because these words cut deep, these
words make people sick. These words kill.
One in four children who are bullied grow some form of
anxiety a decade later after being bullied.
One in six children attempt suicide from bullying.
Two in three school children report bullying
from themselves or witness someone else being bullied.
I don't want to be another statistic,
I don't want you to be another statistic either.
We need to change this, and if we don't, or if we don't step up
for the ones who are, how is this going to change?
If you or someone else you know is struggling with
depression, please, don't be another casualty.
Call the national hotline at
1.800.273.8255.
For a list of national hotlines in your
suicide hotlines for one in your area.
Labels: Don't Change, Don't Judge, Letting Go, Living, school, Self Help, Stop |
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| Great Things Never Came From Comfort Zones. |
I suspect the secret of personal attraction is locked up in our unique imperfections, flaws and frailties.
Hey you! Yes you! The person with the cute face. No, not you. You! The one reading this post. Stop being unhappy with yourself. Stop wishing you looked like someone else or wishing people liked you as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality, your quirks. LOVE THEM! Without them you wouldn't be who you are. And why would want to be someone else? Be confident with who you are. Smile. It'll draw people in. If anyone hates you because you are happy with yourself, then stick your middle finger in the air and say "SCREW IT! My happiness will not depend on others anymore! I am happy! I love who I am! I love my flaws! I love my imperfections! They make me 'me'! And 'me' is pretty amazing!"
Don't let anyone ever bring you down. Love yourself for all you're worth! From your hair that won't always do what you want, all the way down to your scars, freckles, and toes that may not be 'perfect'. You are beautiful, and you know what? If someone else doesn't think so, then get rid of them! Now! You don't need someone in your life who does nothing but bring you down. Because you are pretty dang awesome if you ask me.
How many of you tell yourself you aren't beautiful? I know I have, and I'm 12. How many of you have said your fat? I have. What about if I ask you about your voice? I won't deny that either.
See, we all say things. But their comes a part in your life when you need to stop. You need to love yourself, and if you don't love anything about yourself, then how do you expect others to?
And don't think, this goes to just girls either. Boys also get semiconscious about who they are. I would know, I am a boy.
In the words of the wonderful Ellen Degeneres, "Beauty is about being comfortable in your own skin. It's about knowing and accepting who you are."
You don't need someone else to tell you, you are beautiful, to make it true. You are beautiful how you are, and you don't need anyone else to tell you that you are.
Do something that you usually wouldn't, run around nude, wear that purple lipstick, dress in drab. What you wear does not define you. You are beautiful!
So step outside your comfort zone, smile, and hold your head high.
Cause you're beautiful, you're strong, you're perfect!
Now flaunt your stuff, and show the world just how beautiful you really are.
Labels: Be Yourself, Beautiful, Don't Change, Don't Judge, Learn, Living, Quote, Self Help, Smile |
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| Survival:: School Edition |
Bye Bye Summer Time::
Hello School.
It's that moment in life when the youth are heading to school. Ahh... School. The ultimate retreat, and the worst getaway.
We all go through this part in our lives, and we all know that feeling. The feeling of wanting to go back when it's supposed to be summer. But, wanting to do nothing more than to get out during the school year
So, in honor of our mixed emotions, this post is dedicated to school, how to survive it, and five killer organization skills. Because let's face it... we all know your backpack won't be cleaned until after school stops.
WEAR WHAT MAKES YOU COMFORTABLE::
Wear something you feel confident and yourself in. I suggest something that allows you a jacket as school gets cold. They have to turn the A/C up to make sure people stay warm. Also keep a watch on your wrist.
You never know when you're going to need the time, much like field trips. If you're in my grade, they expect you to know when to leave. So, you need to keep track of time on your own.
People will not remind you when you have to do something, and they expect you to know it yourself.
PACK EVERYTHING YOU NEED FOR A LONG DAY AHEAD::
With the ups and downs of school everyone needs some items, such as your phone, extra pencils, and pens. Flash cards, an agenda, a laptop (if your school allows), and a spare set of keys.
I wouldn't want to be left outside on a hot day, a rainy day, or a cold day. Pack carefully.
As long as you follow those two things, your day should go a bit smoother in helping you concentrate. And remember::
Yes ma'am
No ma'am
Yes sir
No sir.
Remember the teachers are there to help. If you treat them with respect, they will do the same. It'll help your school year go a bit more smooth.
But don't take it from me. I'm just a kid. But take it from someone who's been through 7 years of school. It helps.
Labels: Be Yourself, Don't Change, Learn, school, Self Help |
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| That Smile We All Fake |
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You know that smile?
That smile we ALL fake?
Yeah, you know what smile I'm talking about.
That smile some of you probably have on right now.
The one that says:
But you know, as well as I do, that it's all lies.
We all fake smiles, and for what reasons?
Am I a bad person?
If you're surrounded by people giving you a smile, and someone asks you, "How are you?" You respond with the usual, "I'm good and you?" Because, inside you feel kind of like a bad person if you respond with some answer and a facial expression that doesn't say anything but "Good." You'd rather lie and say that than talk about private issues and ruin an acquaintances or strangers day. So you lie, and say "I'm good."
Faking a smile
is easier than describing how you really feel.
Face it, faking a smile is easier than describing how you really feel. When you're upset, think about it. How many feelings are you really going through? Chances are, quite a lot. With all those emotions going through you, odds are you probably don't know how to express in words how you're really truly doing. It helps make things easier, on both parts. And it's a time saver.
So, you say to yourself a fake smile is all it takes. And, most of the time it's true.
Most of the time a fake smile is all it takes, but beneath that smile, is a person who is hurting deeply, and while you may think that smile is helping. It probably isn't.
When you hide your hurt or sorrow or pain in that smile, you're hurting yourself more than doing any good. So it may help a bit in the beginning, but you're repressing those feelings. Repressing all those feelings just makes them build up. It's like a glass of water.
Your body is the glass. Your sadness is the water on the inside.
What happens if that water keeps going? If it doesn't stop? If you don't take that time to let any of it go?
The water fills up, past the brim of the glass, and you snap.
Everyone needs to let that fake smile go sometimes, and let out how you're really feeling. Or otherwise, you're going to have a mess.
And don't take it wrong either, everyone fakes a smile.
Even Dean Winchester himself.
See, there he goes again faking that smile. It's clear to see though.
Everyone has that smile, but sometimes, you ave to let that smile go, and be sad. People will help, and you won't be so sad anymore. That smile, that was once fake, will turn to a genuine smile which will make your day much brighter.
So, take it off.
Eat ice cream.
Indulge on a movie.
'The Devil Wears Prada',
Or 'The Little Black Book'.
Allow yourself to heal, and let it all out.
That fake smile won't be fake one day.
And you'll find things are much easier.
Labels: Be Yourself, Fake, Fake Smiles, Learn, Letting Go, Self Help |
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| Riding A Wild Horse Named Life |
“Why worry about things you can’t control when you can keep yourself busy controlling the things that depend on you?” ~Unknown
Think of a time when things started to feel out of control in your life.
How did you feel?
What did you do?
Did you do everything in your power to regain control once more? To cling to that last bit of direction you had over your life?
People become so time consumed with what they cannot control and they grow obsessed with making things difficult. Not only for themselves, but for others as well. It often puts a drain on what your life, and makes your life's issues even harder as you try to handle what you're going through.
Be true to yourself:
When you focus on what is out of your control, it prohibits you from experiencing the beauty of having a peace of mind. The more you try to control it, the less you will be able to control other aspects of your life. Before that emotional burden is let go to of strong desire to control, you have to ask yourself a bit: "Can I, or can't I, change this situation?" because those are two completely different questions. Sometimes you feel that things are out of your control, but usually they aren't. People say, "I can't get into this college.' Mostly, it's not what you can't, but it's what you won't.
Every cloud has a silver lining:
When you don't feel in control, it is in the human nature to feel disappointed, to look at what you did wrong and obsess over how terrible the situation is. To go over in your head about how you messed up your life, and how you probably made a situation in which you can't come back from. When that happens, you need to take a step back. You need to take a long long at that silver lining in the darkest of the clouds. You can weigh the pros and cons more effectively, but also help make proper decision making by not letting the situation control you! You can take the saddle, and you can take the reigns of your own life.
Focus on what you can control, and not what you can't:
Amidst that chaos, and confusion will be a ray of hope. Their is always something you can have a control of, and an alternative. Channel all the energy you spent stressing, decision making, ranting and raving, making yourself think their is none, to this alternative because that energy you spent here will result into something productive, and not into you frying your brain.
Always remember,
their are going to be things that you cannot control in life, some circumstances you have to the power to harness the stallion and the problem is not the thing is out of your control. Te problem is that you are trying to hold on and to control it, when you can't. Just like a wild stallion in the hills of Montana, you cannot always harness them. Letting go is not a sign of weakness or giving up, but but rather the acceptance that their are things that cannot always be. That's what gives their beauty in the world. That's what makes the horse so majestic in it's untameable way.
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| Normal Is Totally Overrated |
"If you are always trying to be normal, you will never know how amazing you can be." --Maya Angelou
We all want to feel like we fit in, like our lives are perfect and we are the most completely normal person on this planet. But truth be told, you aren't. And, neither am I.
I'm here to tell you that, that's okay too.
Everyone wants to feel normal, like you fit in to a certain group, like things are totally serene. And hey, who doesn't? Even I find myself wishing to be normal, lying to myself day in and day out that 'It's okay, Vitale. You are normal.' When I really think about it, I'm actually not.
You see, I've tried to change. To make myself fit everyone's version of what we would like to consider 'normal'. But, the more I tried to be normal, the more I realized I was loosing myself. I was turning into just the person I hated. The person who got so caught up in the rules and regularities of every day life, I lost sight of what I was. I lost sight of the funny, outgoing, coffee addicted, hyper kid that I began to love.
And yes, I did love it. I loved myself for what I was truly, un-normal. I hated the person I was trying to be. The person I tried to change into to fit societies, 'norm.'
Well, I'll tell you one thing. It was short lived, and it wasn't all it was cracked up to be.
Because see, even though I thought I fit one persons norm, it wasn't what was normal to someone else.
Everyone has their own sense of normal, and when you try to change who you are to fit that normal, you loose sight of who you are as a person. You never have a chance to show the world who you are, and just how amazing you can be.
So, let loose. Don't try to fit everyone's normal when who knows, maybe your own normal, could very well be someone else's normal too. Stop trying to change, or before you know it, you're going to loose sight of who you are.
So take it from someone who isn't normal.
NORMAL'S OVERRATED!
Labels: Be Yourself, Don't Change, Learn, Letting Go, Stop |
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